Do You Compromise Your Values in a Relationship
Most compromises occur in relationships when one partner goes against a core value just to please the other person. For example, if you believe that just having a landline phone at home is sufficient for your lifestyle and you don’t want others to have 24/7 access to you, that becomes a core value. However, if you get into a relationship with someone who belittles you about not having a cell phone, and you go out and buy one, you’ve just compromised one of your core values in order to please someone.
Low self-esteem is often responsible for someone compromising their core values. Unless you have the confidence to stand up for yourself and what you believe in, many of your life decisions will be influenced as an outcome.
When you’re committed to remaining true to yourself, you won’t compromise your values for a lover, a best friend, or even a boss who tries to intimidate you. If you’ve made mistakes in the past, it doesn’t mean that you have to compromise yourself in any situation today or anytime in the future. You just need to be aware of the fact that when you compromise your core values, the consequences will eventually have a detrimental effect on your well-being and possibly your health.
Stress, anxiety, and worry about making the right decision in any circumstance can lead to a lack of sleep, poor eating and nutrition habits, and feelings of low self-worth. Risking your health should not be an option if anyone in your life asks or demands that you compromise or violate one of your core values.
What do you do when you find yourself in a situation that calls for you to compromise your value system?
A better option when confronted with a situation that tempts you to compromise your core values is to walk away from the person who’s challenging you to do something that you do not believe in. Granted, if you’re in a marriage, a career, or some other long-term binding relationship, walking away might not be an easy solution. However, circumstances change and people change. Sometimes we just don’t know what will trigger somebody else to do something that will affect us in our value system. But it is better to cut them loose from your life than to have regrets later.
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