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How to Get Seniors to Spend More Time Out of the House

by Richard Bitner
written by Richard Bitner

At Visiting Angels®, we know how important home is to elderly adults. After all, the very goal of senior home care is to help seniors extend their years spent in the comfort of home. But as recent research has found, spending too much time at home can significantly shorten the lifespan of seniors. How to Get Seniors to Spend More Time Out of the House
According to results published in the Journal of the American Geriatrics Society, seniors who rarely leave the house have higher rates of mortality than seniors who leave their homes regularly. Meanwhile, seniors who leave the house every day have the lower rates of mortality of all.
These results were true even when researchers adjust for a range of health conditions. This suggests that spending almost all of one’s time at home isn’t just a sign of poor health, but an active contributor to it. That leads to a simple conclusion: spending more time out of the house could increase the average lifespan of elderly adults.
So how can family, friends, and caregivers encourage seniors to spend more time out of the house? Here are a few strategies.

Out-of-the-House Activities for Seniors

  • Have a Cup of Coffee. One of the best ways to get older adults out of the house is to make a cup of coffee at a local café or a lunchtime visit to a favorite restaurant a part of their daily routine. This can be done with a group of friends, a family member, or a professional caregiver.
  • Run Errands Together. Many seniors stop running errands as they grow older, preferring to have family, friends, or caregivers do them on their behalf. An alternative is to do these errands together. That way, seniors have someone with them to lend a hand and take care of any difficult aspects to errands, but they still get to enjoy time out in the community.
  • Take a Short Walk. A short walk around the neighborhood or through a local park is a great way to not only get seniors out of the house, but also to get them active. Even a short, five to ten-minute walk offers cardiovascular health benefits for seniors, and it’s the perfect way to get fresh air in warm weather.
  • Sign Up for Weekly Activities. Local community centers, seniors’ centers, and religious institutions often host a range of weekly activities perfect for seniors. Card games, tai chi classes, and book clubs are just some examples of popular activities for elderly adults.
  • Take Advantage of Community Markets. Many communities have weekly farmers’ markets, many of which are senior-friendly spaces. These markets are a great way to spend time outside, while also picking up healthy fruits and vegetables for during the week. Depending on your loved one’s interests, you might also find success with flea markets or arts-and-crafts markets.
  • Get Fresh Air Close to Home. You don’t need to go far to get out of the house. Elderly adults — particularly those with mobility difficulties — can get daily fresh air by spending time on their porch or in their backyard. Consider adding a birdfeeder, buying outdoor plants, or changing the garden so that your loved one has a reason for spending time outside.

When encouraging seniors to spend time out of the house, there may be limitations or difficulties you need to plan around. Many seniors become housebound due to physical health concerns that make it difficult to leave the home, so family members and friends may need to find activities that are easier to access and enjoy.
Another common issue is who seniors perform these activities with. Socially isolated seniors may not have friends or family available to join them when they leave the home. If seniors don’t enjoy spending time outside alone, it can be difficult to motivate them to get out of the house. Hiring a senior home care service, like Visiting Angels, to accompany your loved one for out-of-the-home activities may be helpful if this is the case.
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How to Get Seniors to Spend More Time Out of the House

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Estate Planning

Will My Advance Directive Work In Another State?

by Guest Blogger
written by Guest Blogger

Making sure your end-of-life wishes are followed no matter where you happen to be is important. If you move to a different state or split your time between one or more states, you should make sure your advance directive is valid in all the states you frequent.

An advance directive gives instructions on the kind of medical care you would like to receive should you become unable to express your wishes yourself. It often designates someone to make medical decisions for you. Each state has its own laws setting forth requirements for valid advance directives and health care proxies. For example, some states require two witnesses, other states require one witness, and some states do not require a witness at all.

Most states have provisions accepting an advance care directive that was created in another state. But some states only accept advance care directives from states that have similar requirements while other states say nothing about out-of-state directives. States can also differ on what the terms in an advance directive mean. For example, some states may require specific authorization for certain life-sustaining procedures such as feeding tubes while other states may allow blanket authorization for all procedures.

To find out if your Advance Directive document will work in all the states where you live, consult with an Elder Law Attorney. To find an Elder Law Attorney near you, go to:
https://eldercarematters.com/elder-law-attorneys/.

Christopher J. Leddy, Jr.

Article provided by Christopher J. Leddy, Jr., Managing Partner of the Heritage Law firm in Charlotte, North Carolina. Attorney Leddy is a Member of the National ElderCare Matters Alliance, and he and his firm have a Featured Listing on ElderCareMatters.com – America’s National Directory of Elder Care / Senior Care Resources to help families plan for and deal with the issues of Aging.

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Health Tips

What to Know About Health By 50, 60, 70

by Guest Blogger
written by Guest Blogger

Essential skills to master by age and stage

Staying healthy through your 50s, 60s, 70s and beyond requires special attention after age 50. Here’s what you should know at each age to stay healthy: What to Know About Health By 50, 60, 70

What to Know By:

Age 50

By age 50, it’s good to be aware of health problems that may slow you down and to be settling into a fitness routine you can sustain through your 50s.

  1. Take preventative tests. Soon after you turn 50, there are a few preventative tests you should take if you haven’t already. These include a colonoscopy, a bone density test and, for women, a Pap smear and mammogram. Men should discuss prostate-cancer screening with their doctor, but routine prostate exams are no longer done on symptom-free men. Click on the links in this sentence for a complete list of recommended screenings for men and women ages 40 to 65 from the National Institutes of Health.
  2. Know your health risks. These include high blood pressure, diabetes and ovarian cancer for women. Know how to prevent and treat these illnesses. If you haven’t already, it’s time to quit sitting too much, drinking too much and smoking.
  3. Step up your fitness. The Centers for Disease Control (CDC) says all adults age 18 to 64 need 150 minutes of moderate aerobic exercise a week. Here are some ways to increase the intensity of your workouts.

Age 60

At age 60, you’ll want to pay special attention to your sexual health, your heart and your mental well-being. Fitness is still essential, though you may find you want to adapt your routine to your current fitness level to avoid injuries.

  1. Mind your sexual health. Maintaining an active and satisfying sex life is part libido, part mindset and part health. If things are not as you would like in the bedroom, see your doctor. It may be that prostate problems for men or symptoms associated with menopause for women are slowing you down.
  2. Maintain your fitness. Try these Do it Yourself baseline tests to see where you stand, and follow the tips for improving your strength, flexibility and endurance based on the results.
  3. Recognize and treat depression. Depression is common in older adults. Untreated, it can lead to a loss of quality of life and even suicide. Know the signs of depression and see a mental health professional if you need help. Depression is treatable and you don’t have to live with it.

Age 70

By the time you are 70, the focus is on continued fitness, nutrition and falls prevention. Mental health is also important. And good news — you don’t need so many health screenings.

  1. Keep exercising. You may need to alter your routine, but maintaining regular aerobic activity and weight training are especially important as you near your 70s. If you have fallen out of the habit, it’s not too late to start. Just follow these guidelines.
  2. Eat well. While there is a tendency to gain weight from your 30s to 50s, weight loss is more typical after 60. Some of this is due to loss of muscle (see weight training above) and some to poor nutrition. Research shows the better you eat, the longer you live.
  3. Avoid falls. A fall and broken hip can lead to a precipitous decline in health. Take steps to avoid falls and prevent injury.
  4. Care for your mental health. Binge drinking and depression are both risks among those 70 and older. But research also shows this can be a time of renewed happiness compared to the 40s and 50s, a progression called the U-Curve. Take a page from Ashton Applewhite, the woman in her 80s who is challenging ageism and showing how to live with gusto at any age.
By Liza Kaufman Hogan from NextAvenue
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Caregiving

Communicating and Alzheimer’s Disease

by Kathy Macaraeg
written by Kathy Macaraeg

One of the challenges of caring for someone with Alzheimer’s disease is effectively communicating with them. They may have difficulty expressing their needs or the caregiver may not know how to address their changing ability. Caregivers can also get annoyed or frustrated because their caree repeats words or forgets the words for common items.

To make communication go more smoothly, it helps to understand what the common challenges are, and then move forward with solutions. Once you understand the challenge, it can be easier to communicate with them. You realize what they are experiencing is a normal part of the disease, and not them.

I had a client who did her best to hide her communication challenges. She was actually really good at it. She would throw out a random word if she didn’t remember the word she wanted and would change the subject before her children realized she was struggling. They thought their mom was being difficult, because she was so good at it. It took a two week visit for her daughter to realize that her mom was not in a position to live alone anymore – not due to communication, but due to other deficits.

Common Communication Changes with Alzheimer’s Disease

  • Inability to name objects
  • Difficulty in finding the correct word for objects, places or people
  • Inability to recognize a word or phrase
  • Using a general term instead of specific words and descriptions are vague
  • Becoming stuck on ideas or words and repeating them over and over
  • Easily losing their train of thought
  • Using inappropriate, silly, rude, insulting or disrespectful language during conversation
  • Increasingly poor written word comprehension
  • Gradual loss of writing ability
  • Combining languages or returning to native language
  • Decreasing levels of speech and use of nonsense syllables
  • Reliance on gestures rather than speech

 

Studies show that people with Alzheimer’s disease retain a strong desire to communicate, despite their challenges.

Communication Techniques for Alzheimer’s Disease

  • Distraction or Redirection: Attempt to engage them in a different conversation or activity.
  • Address the Underlying Feeling: Inquire about feelings – “You sound like you miss your mother,” or “Are you worried about your mother?”
  • Ignore the statement: It may not always add value to respond. Sometimes the most helpful response will be no response.
  • Bend the truth: While we’ve always been taught that lying is wrong, sometimes, it makes sense when speaking to someone with Alzheimer’s disease. They may still believe their mother is alive and when you tell them the truth it can be upsetting. Sometimes, accepting their reality that their mother is still alive is easier for them than upsetting them. If lying is the only way to relieve distress and no other measures have been successful, then it may be justified.

Components for Simplifying Communication with Persons with Alzheimer’s Disease

  • Patience
  • Show your interest in the subject
  • Offer comfort and reassurance
  • Listen for a response
  • Avoid criticizing, correcting or finishing their thoughts
  • Avoid arguing
  • Offer a guess as to what they need
  • Limit distractions
  • Encourage non-verbal communication
  • Be calm and supportive
  • Focus on feelings, not facts
  • Pay attention to your tone
  • Identify yourself and address the elder by name
  • Speak slowly and clearly
  • Use short, simple, familiar words and short sentences
  • Ask on question at a time
  • Allow enough time for a response
  • Avoid pronouns (he, she, they) and negative statements
  • Use non-verbal communication such as pointing and touch
  • Offer assistance as needed
  • Be flexible and understanding

 

I have worked with many clients who had Alzheimer’s disease and am a Schmieding Alzheimer’s and Dementia Caregiver. I have used all of these techniques in communicating with my clients and found them to be useful. As an outsider, it can be easier to communicate with someone with Alzheimer’s disease, versus their family who knew the person they were. Hopefully, these suggestions will make communication easier for your family.

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Conditions & Treatments

How can you Live a Brain-Healthy Lifestyle and Why is it Important?

by Silverado
written by Silverado

In recent years a major recurring theme has taken center stage in scientific research on the human brain:

The lifestyle a person leads plays a major factor in how the brain ages and can directly affect the arc of memory-impairing diseases.

From diet and exercise to stress management and social interaction, there are very few parts of a person’s lifestyle that don’t affect how their brain will age. Though the level of detail provided by these studies can vary greatly, there has never been a better understanding of how the lifestyle choices a person can make to increase their chances of keeping their brain healthy later in life!

Here is a simple list of things a person can do to put the brain-health odds in their favor:

  • Follow an established diet that has been shown to help with healthy aging. The MIND Diet and other diets that are lower in fat and higher in veggies and fruit can keep both your heart and mind healthy! Stick to foods that are low in fat and cholesterol, such as fish, poultry, nuts and whole grains.
  • Get at least 30 minutes of exercise a day, though the longer and more active the better. Physical activity and aerobic exercise have been found to have significant brain benefits and can actually cause important parts of the brain to increase in size. Even simple tasks like gardening and cleaning can help keep your circulatory system delivering oxygen more efficiently throughout the body.
  • Control stress with meditation, Yoga, Tai Chi or other proven techniques. Taking a few minutes to calm the mind can reduce blood pressure and even increase activity in the hippocampus.
  • Keep social and be purposeful. A strong social network involving purpose-oriented activities like volunteering has been found to protect against cognitive decline.

 

While scientists are still studying many of the more specific aspects of these lifestyle choices, they are already being used to help individuals living with dementia in programs like Nexus® at Silverado. This internationally recognized, evidence-based brain health program, is a non-drug approach that has improved cognition and function for many persons in the earlier stages of living with dementia.

Find more useful tips and information here: https://www.silverado.com/resource-center/dementia-resources/

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Five Ways to Flex Your Creative Muscles
Healthy Living

Five Ways to Flex Your Creative Muscles

by Guest Blogger
written by Guest Blogger
The world’s first computer programmer, Ada Lovelace, refers to imagination as a “discovering faculty,” one that “penetrates into the unseen worlds around us.” That power to see beyond what is immediately available is echoed by Dave Evans, Stanford professor. “There are lots of you,” he reminds us. “There are lots of right answers.” Things are so much more than they seem, especially for those with a fertile imagination. If your interested in keeping your brain sharp, we recommend exploring ways to enhance your creative powers. Five Ways to Flex Your Creative Muscles Five Ways to Flex Your Creative Muscles

Seeing multiple possibilities, believe it or not, was what led Italian artist Alessandro Sanna to create the beloved Pinocchio character. Idly staring out the window during a train ride, he imagined that the tree branches he saw resembled a child he knew in a pediatric hospital, a fragile, delicate human being, whose body—in his imagination—was being cradled by an older person who loved him. He began sketching and soon, the wooden puppet with the growing nose was born. Five Ways to Flex Your Creative Muscles

EINSTEIN’S WORDS:

The inspiration “Imagination is more important than knowledge.”
If we take Einstein at his words, we can multiply the importance of imagination. Here are five ways for doing that. We cam examine the behaviors commonly associated with imaginative people, those who optimize their creative talents. As you read them, consider your own behaviors in light of them.

1. Is not thrown by chaos

If you really want to test your ability to tolerate confusion, try this. Find three other people: one person is the listener. The second person whispers non-stop in the listener’s ear, while the third person delivers a “speech” (e.g., views on a controversial topic, such as a Presidential election). The fourth person takes notes on the speech. Then ask the listener what he or she remembered. Compare what the speaker said and what the observer noted.

2. Likes to explore, to experiment

List a number of What If questions. Start with whimsical questions, such as this: what if women ruled the world? (One answer might be that toilet seats would always be down.) These “iffy” questions will help you keep an open mind and will help you remain receptive to the possibilities that abound in the world around you.

3. Welcomes new thoughts

There are places that do their hiring via a group project. To illustrate, they might gather a group of candidates, have them form teams, and then issue a challenge like this: “You have exactly five minutes to complete this task. List 25 ways to improve a stove.” To develop your own imaginative powers and even those of a group of friends, contemplate a challenge that requires speculation. Get those cerebral juices pumping with a question that demands new thoughts.

4. Can see what isn’t visible

An excellent way to “see the invisible” is to find new uses for old things. Example: What can be done with leftover flowers from a bouquet you’ve received, other than making potpourri? List 15 ways to use the flowers. Or, take another object and come up with 15 new ways to use it.

5. Sees value in problems

List the most serious problems you’ve had in the last ten years. What benefits or opportunities resulted from those difficulties? Ask your friends to share their insights as well. Five Ways to Flex Your Creative Muscles

GEORGE WASHINGTON CARVER’S WORDS:

This scientist is best known for his many uses of peanuts. Carver went from being a slave to being an internationally respected botanist in one lifetime. He observed that “when you can do a common thing in an uncommon way, you will command the attention of the world.” You may not be interested in commanding the world’s attention, but you probably are interested in commanding your thoughts and keeping your mental powers sharp. Work on the five recommendations listed here and keep notes on your progress. After all, you are an uncommon senior citizen!
By Marlene Caroselli
This article is excerpted from Applying Mr. Einstein: 365+ Einstein-Inspired Brain Boosts. Her 62ndbook, Applying Mr. Einsteinwill be released by HRD Press later this year. You can reach the author at msmccpd@gmail.com.
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Exercise & Fitness

Nordic Walking For Seniors

by Guest Blogger
written by Guest Blogger

Such a sport as Nordic walking (with walking poles) quickly gained popularity all over the world. And it’s no wonder – exercise minimizes and eliminates a wide range of health problems and serves as a prophylactic for heart disease.

However, such training requires appropriate conditions:

  • A pleasant view outside;
  • A convenient path;
  • Quality equipment.

 

What are the benefits of the exercise?

This sport has a simple technique and does not require special training. Among other things, it is recommended for people over the age of 60 and pregnant women. However, the effect that Nordic walking has on the whole body is great. As a result, 90 percent of the muscles in the entire body are engaged during the exercises, and the load on the knees and shins is significantly reduced.

Exercise is recommended for problems such as:

  • Excess weight;
  • Disturbed metabolism;
  • Parkinsonism;
  • Scoliosis;
  • Vegetovascular dystonia;
  • Respiratory diseases;
  • Cardiovascular diseases.

 

Let’s dwell on the last point in more detail. Heart problems are often caused by the narrowing of the walls of blood vessels. This can happen for a number of reasons, but the result is the same – fewer nutrients enter the body, and its work is disrupted. Many hours of activity cause the heart to consume more oxygen and restores the intensity of the entire system.

Periodic walks with walking poles:

  • Keep the muscles toned;
  • Improve the function of the musculoskeletal system;
  • Correct the posture;
  • Raise the spirits;
  • Stimulate blood circulation.

 

Also, exercise is useful for depressive conditions, insomnia, and loss of energy. Useful activity along with a walk in the fresh air lifts your spirits. This is very important for the elderly, who often suffer from a lack of movement. It is also important that this sport reduces the pain of spinal diseases.

Are there any contraindications?

You can’t do this sport if you have:

  • Joint diseases;
  • Infections;
  • Heart failure;
  • Inflammatory processes in the pelvic area;
  • High temperature.

 

If there are no contraindications, then Nordic walking is useful for the elderly (harm can only be in the case of improper technique).

Nordic walking techniques

The Nordic Walking method with walking poles is based on strict adherence to the rules:

  1. Before walking, you should do exercises with walking poles: bending, squatting, and turning.
  2. You must step like this: a smooth roll from heel to toe.
  3. The posture must be straight throughout the exercise.
  4. It is important to observe smooth and even breathing: inhale through the nose and exhale through the mouth.
  5. At the end of the training, it is necessary to do stretching.

 

What is the importance of stretching? If you perform it at a relaxed pace and without sudden movements, it will help to restore breathing and consolidate the effect of the workout.

The speed of walking and frequency of exercise is determined strictly by the age, health, and well-being of the person after walking.

Take into account the rules and features of Nordic walking with poles for the elderly and do not forget about contraindications! Then this activity will give a cheerful mood, keep the body in good shape, reduce pain in the spine and improve health.

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Helen Wilson is a professional content writer at Write Any Papers. Her main spheres of specialization are Physical Health, but she also provides help on how to write a cause and effect essay.

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Aging

How Friends Keeps Us Young at Heart

by Carol Marak
written by Carol Marak

Staying socially active enriches our lives, and creating intergenerational friends keeps us young at heart and mind. But, how does an older person create a mutually beneficial relationship with someone a decade or so younger without making them feel like they’re being groomed to be the absent child?

I’ve always had older and younger friends. I’ve been lucky that way and now that I’m older, and have no children, I don’t worry that a younger friend will ever feel like I treat her or expect her to take the role of my (absent) child, nor would I want to be her surrogate mom. On the other hand, I would never treat an older friend as my mother/father or aunt/uncle. The trick is not to make defensive jokes or remarks about how old I am nor do I force my wisdom and experience on them. I see each person (older or younger) as whole and complete.

Most of us make friends with people because we like them. We have interests or experiences in common. They make us laugh. They make us feel special. And we should do the same for them. There’s always room for more friends in our lives. So why allow a random factor like an age to stand in the way?

And most understand that having friends is important, but they have no idea how important it really is. Scientists are starting to discover that having friends who care about us is really a vital part of living. And it’s a very good predictor of good health, success, and happiness.

Why Friends Matter

A study by Gallup showed if you hang around people having a nutritious and healthy mindset, you are more than five times as likely to have a very healthy diet yourself.

  • Scientists have found that being lonely is more dangerous than air pollution, obesity, or excessive drinking.
  • Individuals who are not lonely have as many problems as lonely people. But when you’re lonely, the problems faced stress you more and for a longer time. People with active social groups are able to move past stress faster. It’s believed that their friends make that possible.
  • When an individual stresses, their friends remind them of their value, giving the person the ability to quickly move out of feeling negative.
  • Friendship is the leading factor of happiness.
  • We learn to make friends accidentally. No one, even our parents, teach us how to do it.

 

Friendships can’t be looked at as either black or white; either we are best friends forever, or not at all. Holding a hard and fast rule about friendships will hurt you. Try to focus on ranges of friendships from acquaintances, to very casual, to very close. Having a broad and interesting social circle is key to happiness. With casual friends, your investment of time and energy is just smaller, and you share less intimate information.

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Dealing with Narcissistic Older Parent
Life Lessons

Dealing with Narcissistic Older Parent

by Kendall VanBlarcom
written by Kendall VanBlarcom

We don’t choose who are parents are, and for some of us, we end up with parents who didn’t exactly show us the love, support, and compassion we deserved growing up. As they grow older, those parents can come back and want to be helped. As much as you may not want to help them, you know you should. So what do you do? Do you just stay quiet and do what you feel you need to do? Or do you turn around and walk the other way? Dealing with Narcissistic Older Parent
Well, the decision is yours to make, and one decision doesn’t mean you can’t make a decision later.
With caregiving, there is a fair amount of guilt and resentment that builds – even for parents who are not narcissistic. It’s a lot of work taking care of another human being who is an adult and often times stuck in his/her ways. There are days you will be exhausted, frustrated, and utterly burned out. Dealing with Narcissistic Older Parent
Let’s not forget there are benefits to caregiving too. These benefits are what you probably are holding onto right now as you are considering taking care of your parents. Dealing with Narcissistic Older Parent
Let’s put it out there and say that you probably want a good relationship with your parent. You haven’t received what you’ve wanted yet, but you’re hoping that someday you will. A part of you thinks that if you do this, you will receive that love, support, and comfort that you never got in the first place.
One of the biggest mistakes people make with caregiving is having expectations. When people have expectations, they usually end up disappointed. Usually…..not always.
This is why sometimes, it’s okay to try the caregiving for a little while. If you find you are not getting what you need to continue providing care without harming yourself and your personal life, you can always make other arrangements.

When You Have No Choice

Some people feel as though they have no choice but to provide caregiving services to their older parent. They may not have money to pay for services, or they feel way too guilty not to do it themselves. What do these people do in this case?

  • Treat it as a job. Just as you are not happy with your job all of the time, do what you need to do, and keep moving. The more emotionally invested you are in it, the worse it will feel. Just do, and try not to feel.
  • Ask for help from friends and family. Try not to take all of the care yourself. It’s too much for one person, and you will get through this time in your life much easier if you have help. Reach out and take the help people offer.
  • Talk to friends and family about how you feel. As much as you try not to feel, you will likely end up feeling some way. It’s best to vent it to get it out of your way. As you become accustomed to caring for your parent, it will be easier for you to let it go on your own.
  • Reach out to a personal consultant. A personal consultant is just like a friend or family member. You can call him on the phone, talk about everything to get it all out and even problem solve your situation. After a session, you’ll feel as though you have a new perspective on life and caregiving. This can help you move forward with positivity.

Contact Kendall Van Blarcom today for a personal consulting session. He can help you with this situation, so you can feel better about what you are dealing with as you decide to or not to care for your older narcissistic parent.

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