When You Should Compromise

Compromising can be a difficult thing to do with people. While it’s a great way to make two people happy about a situation, it doesn’t always work out that way. That’s because there are some situations in which you shouldn’t compromise. Knowing when you should compromise will help you save time and energy. When You Should Compromise What It Means to Compromise You probably know what it means to compromise. When two people do not agree on something, each person decides to do a little of what the other person wants, and the other person does the same. That way not

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Making the Move to Senior Living Easy for Mom

Making the Move to Senior Living Easy for Mom

Don't wait until the weekend before the move!   Follow these 6 tips for a smooth transition: Set aside a weekend: Moving takes time. Set aside a weekend to do it right. Get the family involved: Get as many family members as possible to help with the move. Aside from helping the move go more quickly, it'll help remind your Mom that she has a support system. Identify the true junk: Walk with your Mom through her house or apartment identifying items that all agree can be donated, recycled, or trashed. Remember: just because Mom owns it, doesn't mean she has to

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Understanding Financial Powers of Attorney – Are They a “License to Steal”?

Understanding Financial Powers of Attorney – Are They a “License to Steal”?

A financial power of attorney is a valuable legal document that ensures that your financial matters will continue to be handled – should you become incapacitated and unable to do so yourself.  However, placed into the wrong hands, these documents can become a license to steal. Understanding Financial Powers of Attorney – Are They a “License to Steal”? In your power of attorney, you’re called the “principal” and the person you select to have authority over your finances is called the “agent” (or “attorney-in-fact”). A general power of attorney allows your selected agent to do everything that you could do with

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Assisted Living vs. Nursing Home vs. Home Care

How to choose the right living situation for your aging parent You have to consider several factors (finances, health care needs and preferences) when choosing where your aging loved one should live. Although seniors have many different living options, most people choose an assisted living facility, a nursing home or in-home care. Before making any decision about where your loved one should live, talk to them. Find out what they want their daily life to look like and what would make them happiest. Their ideal situation (retiring to Hawaii, for example) might not be feasible, but having an honest conversation

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How to choose a home care provider

1. Write down all the care services needed Start by making a complete list of all the tasks you or your loved one needs help with. Once you have this list, you can decide whether you need one provider or a few with different specialties. 2. Screen over the phone first Next, call the companies that advertise the services you need and confirm that their employees can do everything needed. Use the list of questions from Eldercare.gov to ensure your loved one will receive quality care. 3. Interview in the resident’s home If a provider meets your standards after talking

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Caregiving Tips to Help Aging Parents Manage their Lives

If you are a caregiver to your aging parent, you know that you need to be organized to juggle everything on your plate. However, did you know that it will be beneficial to everyone involved if your aging parent or loved one is also organized? Many people think that once they retire, they don’t need to be organized anymore. The thing is, if you have appointments and rely on people to assist you, the more organized you are, the better off everyone is. A caree’s organization system doesn’t have to be as in depth as a caregiver’s system. They just

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Aging Parents: Plan for All Seasons

Plan now for where your elders will live as they age.  Get their vision for what they want to happen if they need care or accommodations for an illness.  Having a plan is the key.  It reduces the stress, eases the frustration and makes caregiving easier for all involved.  I’ve boiled it down to 3 steps. Do your elders want to live at their own home as long as they can? Do they have a vision for where they’ll want to be if the time comes when they need care?  Does each family member have a role? First – talk

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When Roles Reverse: Talking to Parents About Alcohol

When Roles Reverse: Talking to Parents About Alcohol

In every parent-child relationship, there eventually comes a time when roles reverse. It's a natural and inevitable extension of the aging process. The mom or dad who once changed your diapers, drove you to soccer practice, and applied Band-aids to skinned knees will gradually lose their mobility and independence, requiring greater help and supervision with their own health and safety needs. For the child who in turn is tasked with caring for an aging parent, navigating this new juncture can be difficult because it means taking a more directive role in relation to a grown-up who, in addition to having

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10 Dementia Warning Signs to Look for During Holidays

Spending time with loved ones during the holidays means it’s easier to spot all of the small changes in behavior that could mean the early stages of memory impairment. While this can cause initial feelings of worry and panic, taking the time to understand the situation is the first step in providing your mother, father, grandparent, sibling or other family member the best care possible. These are the most common signs that dementia-related changes may be taking place in the brain: Memory lapses that disrupt daily life. Forgetting newly-learned information and important dates or events. Problem-solving and planning difficulties. Difficulty concentrating and

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